Last week, hubby told me that when I hemorrhaged post birth with Ethan, it really scared him. REALLY scared him. I knew that it wasn’t the best thing for him to experience but I didn’t realise the affect it had on him and it has affected his ability to support me this time around. Which is fair enough.
For those who want a refresher on my birth story, the links are below:
So in order for him to feel more comfortable about everything (and hopefully give me his blessing!), I asked him if he wanted to come to an appointment at the hospital with me to talk to an Obstetrician about the birth, how the bleed could have happened, risks for next time and a plan of action if we were to go again. He agreed to this so I am in the process of trying to organise an appointment. I know a lot of this and I have spoken to the midwives and doctors about it and have relayed this info to hubby but he needs to hear it from a professional in order to feel comfortable about the risks. As I have always maintained, I will NOT go ahead with another surrogacy unless he is supportive.
As for suitable IP’s to be a surrogate for, I am keeping that under wraps for now. It is not a short process and there is a lot to think about, lots of discussions with hubby to have, so you will have to stay tuned!