I will be brief, but with undertones of excitement.
KiT and I went to see the Obstetrician yesterday. To say he was impressed with my A4 page of written gynecological history was an understatement. He laughed, he nodded, he smiled and he was much appreciated.
Here is what happened in a nutshell:
He was late (how dare he deliver a baby instead of meeting with us)
We took selfies in the waiting area
We laughed and chatted with some interstaters who were at that time having their own transfer party!
We waited and chatted and laughed some more
Ob arrived back at the consult suites
We got called in
We made small talk
We explained the situation- that we weren’t a loved up lady couple wanting to make a child together (easy mistake to make, we know)
He read my notes (review above for visual imagery)
He asked a couple of questions of myself and KiT
We answered said questions
He gave me a referral to have a pelvic ultrasound (common practice)
He said pending results of that (which should be fine) he has no problems recommending me to carry KiT/CaT’s baby!!!!
I would be lying if I said we didn’t do a weird hug/kiss/happy dance “thing” in the hallway of the consult suites. Think limbs, puckers, cheeks smooshing together and transfer of makeup from one face to another. I would also be lying if I said we didn’t do it again in the car… KiT even had a bottle of bubbles in her handbag (that thing is like Mary Poppins’ bag!) that she had managed to hide from me until said approval was given. I must have been off my game as usually I can sniff out bubbly from 100 paces. I blame the distraction of the appointment and the excitement for that lapse in concentration. I will do better next time.
So next week we are booked for the pelvic ultrasound. For those of you playing at home, that involves the insertion of what we affectionately call the “dildo cam” (do NOT Google that) up ones lady regions to check out her uterus, ovaries and general region to identify anything amiss that might affect a subsequent pregnancy. These are not new to me. I think I have had about 100 in my time. We are well acquainted and I don’t even need it to buy me a drink beforehand any more. One might be a little afraid of the condom that is placed on the dildo cam, or even the copious amounts of lubrication that follows, but I have been assured that this is not a judgement on me, it is simply done because this method has proven to produce the best images for assessment. Phew!
You may forget all of that if you wish, you know I am a “tell all or tell nothing” kind o gal.
Once the scan has been taken, the Ob will write the letter to the FS who will see KiT and I at the start of Feb to chat about all things being a surrogate and having someone to carry for you. Then this information will be reported to the clinic board and their approval will mean we can start the process of clinic counselling!
Sh1t is getting real! In a good way.
I will update again post ultrasound. I cant promise it will be less graphic than the above descriptor. xo
Oh and PS. Ignore my first sentence. I am a liar, obviously.